21 and feeling dumb.

Quarter life crisis 

So if you don’t know – i’m 21. Yeah I know, I feel old too. I think going from your teenage years when you have nothing to worry about to going into your twenties is tricky. If you to University you seem to find yourself stuck in a never ending loop of trying to get your life together as well as trying to juggle having fun and getting a degree. If you didn’t go to University you may feel like you are working so hard to get somewhere whilst everyone else is dossing around at university? Whichever one you are, I understand how you are feeling.
I realised that being 21 has actually just made me stupid. Before I turned twenty I thought by this age I would have my life together by now, at least be in a stable job and be girl bossing myself through life. Instead I’m doing the complete opposite. Just doing enough to get me through.However I have learnt a lot of things about life since I have been going through this crisis.

Social media is not your friend.

If you do a job where you focus on Social media all the time, like PR or Marketing, social media seems to be something that you just cannot escape, your whole life seems to revolve around it. However, we all know about what it is like to be absorbed by the world of social media, and spend hours sat in your towel after a shower or before work just scrolling through your phone. It’s really not that healthy for you. Obviously, we all know how great social media can be to stay connected to all your mates. But maybe just once in a while you should have a cleanse. Read about my social media detox here and see whether or not you feel any better after doing it.

You need to start looking after yourself

Them 8am starts when you have been up all night isn’t going to do you any favours. You really need to start looking into our self care, because your mind and body are the things that lug you around everyday. Practicing self care is so important so experiment with different hobbies that you enjoy and use them as your escape. Try and make sure you get your 10,000 each day  and eat your 5 a day and you will stop feeling sluggish. I know you did it at university but you can’t do it anymore, gone are the nights of endless takeaways watching Netflix until 4am. Look after yourself.  Investing in healthier habits in your twenties will not only make yourself feel better, but also boost your energy and will be so much better for your body long-term.

  Not everything is going to work out the way you wanted it to

That boyfriend you thought you’d be with forever? The dream job you’ve always wanted? Your friends you’d always swear you’d be mates with. It doesn’t always work out. No-one is to blame, as my mum says ‘that’s just life’. I think the earlier we drill it into us that things don’t always work out the better it is. As a generation, we are very good at criticizing one another and extremely talented at criticizing ourselves. Instead of planning our whole life out, why not take time to look at things as the go by.

21 year-old lifestyle blogger who loves unicorns and glitter. Thank you for checking out my posts you absolute babes x


  1. Vicky
    January 29, 2018 / 11:20 am

    Great post! I’m 30 lol and feel like I’m just starting in life again! I’ve come to the end of a 10 year teaching career and I’m getting married and moving away. You learn a lot at each stage of life, but it’s important to enjoy it, work smart, and keep going! Great post xx

    Victoria | http://www.spokenreveries.co.uk

  2. January 29, 2018 / 11:30 am

    You made me smile:) allow me to be “old” for a second – if it’s any comfort. I’mm a mom of 3 and 40 and just now feel like I FINALLY know what it is that I really want to do. During my twenties I just explored myself and the world and I am SO not sorry about it – I loved every second of that. Enjoy, love, live and definitely take care of yourself body and soul. the headline should say “feeling smart” because that’s how you come through the post.

  3. January 29, 2018 / 3:39 pm

    Firstly you are definitely not old. I’m turning 39 in a month and definitely feeling my age!!! There are people who at 20 are totally together and at 60 who are as immature as they were in their teens!!! You sound very sensible and together, just remember though we all need silliness and to let our hair down occasionally!!

  4. January 30, 2018 / 9:07 am

    I can totally relate with you. I am twenty and feel so tired and old already. I don’t know how some people manages everything from the college assignments to the semesters so effortlessly. So many things happen at the same time and you don’t know which thing is to focus upon and which is to be ignored and after all this you need to look out for yourself. Pretty difficult but you gotta get away with the flow. Loved your post, xoxo

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